During divorce, our work gives us something to hide behind. We aren’t ready to talk about who we are … because we don’t know where we fit any more. Witness the following: “My question was, ‘who are you, not what do you do?’” he said. We leaned on the bar at the symphony fundraiser. He […]
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You can’t escape this: at some point, as a newly single person, you’ll be alone with a lovey-dovey, kissy couple. The “get a room” type. Be prepared! Here’s the strategy to handle it. It’s Friday evening. I’m newly single and dining with a couple married 3 years. Second marriage for both after lousy first marriages. […]
As I hustled down Market Street in San Francisco this morning, I was unexpectedly hit with that Wham! of missing him so deeply that it stopped me cold. “Quit the drama!”, I told myself. “You will heal. This is part of breaking up. Be kind to yourself. You’re grieving. Give yourself time. It will pass.” […]
Recent divorce or major break up? Rough sledding, isn’t it? Here’s my promise: the grieving and depression will eventually end. There’s hope! To get past it, you must follow the six no-kidding, don’t-mess-around tips below. It’s survival. In the meantime, check out this episode in my own life. I think you’ll identify. I’m in the shower […]
Don’t do it! Don’t answer that text! (That’s what everyone tells you.) But you do it anyway. And you pay, big time. Here’s what happens: You’ve said goodbye to your lover. You’ve finally done the godawful, painful, gut wrenching break-up talk. Maybe there were tears. Or a stun gun that made you emotionless. Or you […]
A moment for those heros – women and men – who run head on into fires to save us all – whether in city streets or in the wilderness. Focused, wise, and fearless. Thank you to all of you. Unless you’ve witnessed the ferocious power of mother nature balancing her earth with fire, you can’t […]
By now, we know what we like and don’t like — whether it’s food, cars, style … or sex. If you’ve undergone a painful divorce, I bet you’ve composed a list of things you tolerated with your former spouse, but no longer want to do with a new partner. For example, under sex, maybe it’s […]
Three weeks before Christmas, I met my new boyfriend’s family in Sonoma. At the time, I was 61 and he was 66 years old. As we approached the café, I saw his sister. She sat rigid on a stool, arms and legs crossed, scrutinizing me. Right before we walked up to her, my date warned, […]
The season of over-indulgence, glitter, unrealistic expectations and fantasy has arrived. But I refuse to buy in. On Black Friday, I wrote a letter to several people on my annual gift list. I told them: “My gift this year won’t come in Priority Mail, by FedEx, or UPS. It’s coming from my heart, right here […]
It’s late afternoon on Sunday. The weekend hourglass is trickling down to its last bit of sand and you feel a pervasive sadness cascading over you. As the afternoon wanes into evening, the intensity of the “Sunday blues” gets worse: job worries, angst and anxiety over undone weekend projects, and financial responsibilities. You’re not alone. […]